The screenshots floating around Twitter of men embarrassing themselves in the DMs is absolutely cringe-worthy.
There are a number of factors why many men fail when it comes to approaching women in the DMs. In this article, we aim to discuss the different factors at play and hopefully you, as a man, will be able to improve your “slide in game”.
1: Mundane Greetings
Hi. Hey. Ai. How are you? Howzit?
The first thought, as a decent human being, when meeting someone new would be to greet them and ask how they are. It would be natural to assume that it works the same when you’re messaging someone online but you would be so far from the truth.
We live in a world of Instant Messaging which means that people are eager to get to the point as quickly as possible. If you message a woman, as a complete stranger, and you don’t address the (who and why) of your text, it will likely get ignored.
a) Who: Introduce yourself
b) Why: Give a reason why you’re messaging her
This will work well in your favour because women love when men are straightforward with their intentions and you can more easily root out the women who aren’t interested in you by the lack of response.
2: Empty/ Boring Profile
It’s very important to have an active Social Media presence if you plan on messaging anyone you don’t know. Empty profiles come across as creepy or bot-like.
This is not to say that you need to fill up your page with random pictures or posts but instead, have a few decent images of yourself in different places (most especially for Instagram).
Women would be more inclined to message back if they see that you are an active member and not Spam.
3: She has options
This one is out of your control but it’s good to know that, unlike men, who have a plethora of opinions when it comes to choosing a partner. They have the power of choice as men are the ones who do the approaching. This is especially true to the very attractive ladies out there (The 10s).
Women know this fact and you find some of them who take it to extremes and make it seem as if they are doing men a favour by responding to them - as if their time is more valuable. Keep in mind that she may respond after a long time or may never respond at all. You just need to accept that and it's important to not seem over eager for a response.
Remember to have fun with it. You can't take this too seriously or hope to get a future wife out of this because more often then not, you'll shoot your shot and completely miss your mark. So just do you and hope the odds are in your favour.